this christmas...will be...a very special christmas...

since it's NYE, what everyone wants to know is: "what are you doing tonight?" and just the whole process of it, along w/this holiday itself, is making me feel tired. and it hasn't even started yet. so instead of focusing on that, i'm gonna think of mellower times: christmas w/the fam in jersey.

had such an adorable and relaxing time home w/the fam over the holidays. since i barely hung out w/anyone in order to recharge my batteries i just goofed off and was extremely immature w/my younger cousins and little sister. got some good presents that i can actually use and would wear this year, always a plus.

even tho this whole time home was for recharging my batteries, i did manage to see Bear and Whoa. Bear and i did the whole super jersey experience by going to Chili's for dinner and then heading over to Cleveland's for drinks after. Cleveland's is like going to a mini high school reunion for me b/c all the kids who ended up never leaving my hometown end up there for the night. Bear and i got there at a little after 10 pm and the place seemed mellow, like a local bar. as soon as we sat down i ended up seeing a boy i had a crush on from high school. we did our nods of acknowledgement and moved on. then i noticed the table he was sitting w/were all from my high school. this sparked a lengthy convo w/Bear about what we would've been like if we had stayed in our hometowns: would we be going to Cleveland's every night? would we take a date here? would we come here if we were single and were looking to hook up? it was an endless convo of "what-ifs" and i'm not sure i'm too curious to find out the answers.

around 11 pm the place really started to fill up and then it was a flood of ppl i went to high school w/. and that was our cue to leave. it's not that i don't like those ppl. they're nice enough. the issue is that i don't have anything to say to them nor do i really care what's happened to them. i only care in a gossipy-did-they-get-fat-where-are-they-now way. so why bother?

right before i left i met w/Whoa at this cofffee shop which i never knew of but am going to be a regular at from now on called Fine Grind. it's adorable and the menu is ginormous. love it. i opted for a Diana's Decadence (vanilla hazelnut latter w/whipped cream topped w/a nilla wafer and peanuts) while Whoa got a Mint FroHo (frozen hot chocolate w/mint). we haven't had much time to chat w/her starting her 1st year of med school so we spent a lot of time catching up on what's been going on. even w/the trials and tribulations of med school Whoa still managed to get a boyfriend who sounds very promising right now. lucky biatch. so happy for her tho b/c she deserves to be w/someone good. she's too much of a hottie and way too smart to be single.

of course a trip to jersey wouldn't be complete w/o gorging myself at Minado so the family had a mini-reunion for the holidays at Minado my last night there. so much seafood. so gluttonous.

an Oppa pseudo-date

did i ever mention this crowning achievement? yep, i once had the fortune of having an Oppa pseudo-date.

let me just clarify this term "pseudo-date" tho i'm sure it's not hard to decipher. it's just the word i like to use to define hanging out w/a boy who you feel really comfortable w/ but it's just the 2 of you and you do stuff that might be considered a date if it wasn't for the fact that there is no chance of anything romantic or intimate happening beyond a platonic level. however, b/c i truly enjoy it and hope that all my real dates are so comfortable and fun i like to call them "pseudo-dates": essentially they're models for the future. wishful thinking.

so i've had pseudo-dates w/Prez and a lifetime full of them w/O-Henry and now i can confidently say that i've had 1 w/Oppa as well. this was back when i was still recovering from the plague but had spent so much time indoors at that point that i needed to get out on a friday night but didn't have the stamina for a real night out. Oppa happened to call and was in the same mood as me and was coming into the city w/some friends. at 1st we were supposed to meet at some place whose name i can't remember but as soon as i found out it was a ultra-trendy club i passed. Oppa wasn't feeling it either so he dropped his friends at the club and we met up at Blue Owl as recommended by Debs as a low-key lounge. i actually really like this place although it was a little more crowded than i'd hoped (but not obnoxiously so) and i guess that's a sign of a good place. it was fun to chat w/Oppa about everything and nothing. mostly i lament about how un-dateable i am and Oppa tells me why (do i talk too much? or is that a rhetorical question when asked on a personal blog?).

afterwards we went to Players for a few more drinks before Oppa would have to pick up his friends from the club and drive back to jersey. while there we randomly ran into Joebo and some of Oppa's other friends. ktown really is so small at 1 or 2 am. right as we were leaving Goldilocks and Yuka met me b/c Joebo had been clamoring for food. we finally sat down at Kunjip and then Joebo all of a sudden jumped up and said he had to go. it was so weird although i was advised by Oppa that he was obviously drunk. and you know why it obvious? b/c before Joebo left he gave me a hug and said "i love you". that's why it's supposed to be obvious (translated: he would never say that if he was sober. thanks, thanks a lot). regardless the girls all ended up staying and we ate some much needed food before heading back to brooklyn.

me i want a hula hoop

i'm back home in jersey (for some reason i keep wanting to say "dirty jerz"...someone must've been teasing me about it recently b/c i NEVER want to say that) for x'mas w/the fam.

you know, for all my bitching, i actually enjoy being home w/the fam. aside from the fam perks, being home's just relaxing. since there's really nothing to do, it just ends up being no pressure and completely thought-free. it's like a sabbatical from real life. plus, i usually get to see some old friends that i haven't seen in forever.

even tho i couldn't see O while he was home-it happened to be during exams and then he left on the 16th but we did have a deep deep conversation about why he hasn't settled down and how i'm so motherly about it-i did see O-Henry and that was much needed. we met up for dinner at Panevino, an italian place in livingston that i've only been to once. it's so typical nj how we ended up here. we were deciding where to meet up for dinner and both of us were pretty much "bleh" in deciding and then i ran down the usual list w/him: chili's, TGIF's, applebee's, outback, etc. and he was very decisively "no" about those options and then i could only suggest a smattering of asian restaurants before i pulled Panevino out of my butt. it's so atypical tho: when we were in high school the only places we ate at were those chain restaurants b/c we could afford them and they were located relatively equidistant from all of us. then we went to college and would come home for break and pick those same places for the same reasons or else go into the city. now we're adults and b/c we never travelled outside of those comfort zones before and are only home for short periods we have no other options. it's so weird. especially now that i live in NY where the options are pretty much endless and travel's so easy.

o and p.s.-how weird is it that i googled the restaurant to see if it had an official website to link to and found a blogger who had done a whole review of it and a picture that i could post? i just didn't expect it...

i got home on friday night, aftter spending the whole day completely hungover from the after-finals party at Galway Hooker (post complete w/pictures to come shortly-i promise). the next day i immediately set out to do all my x'mas shopping b/c i hate procrastinating on this stuff and i truly dislike the mall (although as a teen i loved it-i am getting SO old). so the whole family trudged off to Willowbrook Mall where i'm proud to say i did all my shopping w/in 4 hours. impressive no? fine, well i think it is.

aside from that just been doing the quality time w/the fam and sleeping a lot. altho i did go see Alvin and the Chipmunks today. i always watch childish movies w/my sister but in all honesty, it's only b/c w/her i can pretend like i'm not the 1 that wants to see it when i reality i totally am. the movie was adorable although nothing stellar but completely brought back memories of watching the cartoon show when i was younger.

ok, i just completely got distracted by the official movie website... i am a complete child
Chris Brown-This Christmas imported by LADIIFREEZE

last hurrah before Thanksgiving

let's reminisce about happier days...or at least more fun days. the last time i can recall that iwas actually out and about was right before thanksgiving. that's so sad... well at least when i did go out i made it worthwhile.

APALSA planned a last hurrah event at Vesta, planned by the 1L reps and they did a good job. definitely lots o' asians. although most of them didn't go to BLS. nor were they members of APALSA. o well, the more the merrier i guess. Adidas, Wifey and i went there together and it was kind of quiet at 1st but then ppl started to trickle in. i'm actually not a big fan of Vesta only b/c it's kind of small. however, they came through by offering 2 for 1 deals. YEA!! and you had to buy both drinks at once (easier to administer it that way). so double shots all around! Adidas and Wifey began the night by deciding to see who could outdrink the other (it's not really a contest b/c it's pretty much lose-lose either way: Adidas will turn into a sloppy mess while Wifey will turn belligerent and sullen). Snoopy had called me earlier b/c he'd gotten an invite from 1 of the 1L reps (yes it's a small world always) and met me there. it's hard to pinpoint anything specific for the night b/c there was a lot of ppl there and there was lots of different stuff going on. 1 of the 1L reps was trying to get his mack on. Adidas somehow knew a whole group of boys that nobody knew. BST was doing "Cali dancing" ( it involves lots of arms if i remember correctly). Hey-Yaaa and i were discussing how i felt weird talking to ppl i didn't know b/c everyone was very 6-degrees of separation but we kept perusing the crowd for good-looking boys. hitting on Buddy and his little brother. and lots and lots and lots of Grey Goose shots.

afterwards we went to Kunjip for food. i can't remember if we took a cab or walked or what. i think it was a cab. yea, this is where the night got kind of hazy. i know we got to Kunjip and i sat w/Co-Chair and Buddy.Snoopy was sitting across from me and like a good friend he kept asking me if i was okay. and we drank lots of baek saeju. i think that's all i ended up imbibing at Kunjip. no food, just drinks. and i kept bugging Buddy about his little brother b/c they look nothing alike. i kept asking "are you guys really brothers? really? REALLY?!?!" i'm sure it was annoying. poor Buddy, i always bug him when i get drunk...is it my subconscious trying to say something (wink, wink)?

then we all trudged on the subway back home b/c we're all poor law students. and somehow i lost my student ID.

they raped me then made me their bitch

i mean the exams for Federal Income Taxation and Corporations of course...

had Tax on saturday morning. if i wasn't crying about the exam i would've thought what happened is funny or at least amusing. the reason i had the exam on saturday morning was because it conflicted with my Commercial Arbitration exam so it was rescheduled. about 2 days before the exam i got a confirmation about which room i was going to be in. i show up on saturday, sit down, get set up, and they give me the exam and it's multiple choice. i am beyond ecstatic. i mean, multiple choice? my life couldn't get any better. then i look at the top of the exam form. DEAN?! my prof's Polito! i go up to the proctor to advise her of the situation and she spends 15 mins telling me to just sit down and take the exam and it's all fed income tax exams so it doesn't make a difference etc. since i don't know exactly what to do i decide to sit down and just take the damn exam. luckily the proctor comes to her senses and checks w/the controller and they tell me to go to room 601 where my exam is being administered and sorry for the inconvenience. needless to say, when i finally get the right exam i'm ready to weep and just give up. no multiple choice and (for me) so tough and definitely not enough time. i walked out of that exam totally traumatized.

i had my Corporations exam the following monday (yippee! only a day and a half to prepare!). luckily She helped me study. i perused my 100-page outline and then we went over exam questions together and discussed various concepts for 4-5 hours before i went back to my place and slept for 2 hrs and then continued studying until the exam at 1 pm. i was feeling pretty confident in my knowledge of corps and ready to go. then i got the actual exam. 3 hours for the topics that were on the exam was definitely not enough time. she covered SO MUCH stuff. par value? corp opportunity doctrine? conflict of interest? self-interested transaction? SEC 14(a)? LLCs, LLPs, GPs, close-corps? take-overs? mergers? sigh...the list goes on and on. the exam was 3 hrs with 3 sections: 2 essay questions and 6 short-answers. the irony is that she alloted the whole exam to take 2 hrs and 50 mins. SHE ACTUALLY EXPECTED US TO FINISH IT WITH 10 MINUTES TO SPARE!! blech...i wrote down to the wire and am just crossing my fingers and hoping that everyone was as traumatized by the exam as i was.

so obviously i was irritated by all this. then i got home after my exam on monday and the cleaning lady the Bobsey Twins had ordered arrived. ok, here's the deal w/this situation: i got back from my exam on saturday and was advised by Tweedledum that they had ordered a cleaning lady and i was to pay $30. they ordered a cleaning lady w/o ever asking me. she would be coming to clean both bathrooms and the kitchen. i was pretty pissed at first. who would ever make a decision w/o consulting others particularly when it comes to money. but, i'm not a bitch and since Tweedledee had already paid for the service on her credit card i was willing to pony up this time. then i met the cleaning lady. she was 2 hrs late and brought no cleaning supplies w/her. what was sadder was she went to clean the Bobsey Twins' bathroom 1st and couldn't find any cleaning supplies and came out to ask them if they had anything like a scrub or brush or anything to clean w/. and they said "no." the implications from their "no" is ironic and funny and sad all at the same time. it begs the question: so what do you usually do? and the naturally inferred answer is: nothing. so the cleaning lady had to use the supplies from Wifey and my bathroom. and this is what i paid $30 (so cumulatively $120) for. argh... luckily Egg came and rescued me and we went to Joya for dinner while she was here b/c staying would've been like having to listen to someone rake their nails over a chalkboard for 4 hrs.

out of context

ok, 1 down and 3 to go. ironically the next 3 are going to fly by b/c they've basically been jam-packed into my schedule. i've got Federal Income Taxation on saturday morning, Corporations on Monday morning and Evidence on Thursday afternoon.

and i hate all these classes.

hmm...well that's a predicament huh? well, there's nothing i can do about it so i'll just keep trudging for now. the 1 exam i'm done w/is the only class i really liked this semester: Commercial Arbitration. aside from 1 of the professors being very dry, the content was straightforward but interesting. thinking of commercial litigation focus now, which coincidentally is what the Rock's doing in HK which i just found out a week ago (when i was communicating w/the outside world).

since finals started i've realized:
1. it's amazing how much ramen a single person can eat
2. how easily distracting the Internet and TV; literally 2 hrs fly by whenever i take a "break"
3. i can actually (relatively) function on 3 hrs of sleep
4. how pretty the sun rise can be
5. how awful the sun rise can be
6. the ability to accomplish nothing while simultaneously working all day

ok, now onto what this entry's really about. a while ago i introduced Puff (who had to be renicknamed at his request. who knew ppl actually care about their pseudonym?) to Adidas on a random weekday night when he came to the Heights for the 1st time for drinks. we headed to Brazen and i just watched these 2 and realized: why hadn't i ever introduced them before? they actually have a lot in common. aside from the obvious (chinese males) they both like to party a lot and always have completely reedonkulous stories when they get wasted. ok, so maybe that's not a lot in common, but trust me, they actually do have a lot in common it's just hard for me to explain (they're both very childish, hilarious, have extremely high standards when it comes to girls etc.).

Adidas and his gf just recently broke up (well not recently anymore) and we were discussing his inability to be single and his potential to prove the "pimp" status he's always bragging about (he always claims he's "so good-looking". if you were here you'd know i was rolling my eyes right now). although, Adidas has been putting in more of an effort. he actually gets dressed for school now. well, "gets dressed" means he puts on jeans and a t-shirt as opposed to the swishy pants and grey sweatshirt he used to wear to school everyday. Egg and i saw him last week and we were both commenting on how he cleans up nice...

a pounding headache

i'm hiding out in my room for exams, but i'm still not being very productive. as evidenced by this entry. so sad can't make it to Stitch's holiday party at Opus 22. come to think of it, i missed it last year too b/c of exams. i'm also missing Debs' friend's holiday party. sigh. it's at this amazing apt located right near Union Square above the Chase Bank. you can't miss it. it looks like the kind of apt that exists in movies about 20-somethings living in Manhattan. except this person's real. and friends w/Debs.

since i can't go to these fun events, i'll just reminisce about an event that i've been meaning to write about for a while but hadn't gotten around to it: BLSPI Talent Show. i didn't go last yr, but decided to go this yr and help out (yes, i'm actually part of another org aside from APALSA). turns out they really didn't need my help but i stayed and Brantley and Ol' met me there. i was still on antibiotics from the plague at that time and i remember i was feeling pretty loopy from just 2 beers (yea antiobiotics!). the show was pretty good:
1. Chase Honeycup sang and played guitar. funny antics ensued involving the mic stand and Chase's height
2. BLS has its very own Jewish lawyer version of Eminem! he was actually really good and i'm kicking myself for not remembering his name. it was something hysterical...
3. the girl who should've won was actually something totally unplanned. some random girl was running towards the stage during intermission and took a massive digger. that everyone saw. i know it's mean to laugh at the person who falls, but it was funny. and for some reason the way it happened/how she did it was so that nobody there didn't see it
4. Institution did TaeKwonDo. umm, at least i think it was Tae Kwan Do...think he'll kick my ass if i misquote it? he does take it really seriously...
5. asians breakdancing. yea, you heard me right. well, actually, 1 asian. but still impressive. i remember Buddy and i rushing to the front and grabbing seats in the 1st row when it was time for breakdancers. we're such a couple of groupies.

so yea, the event was fun as a whole. but of course the really fun stuff happens afterwards, when everyone goes out for more drinks. we started out at Brazen Head which was completely packed. Egg and i walked there together w/some others and an argument got started about who should've won the talent show which somehow snowballed into an argument about gender and social trends. awkward. once it got too serious i just stayed neutral but Egg seemed pretty mad and left not long after getting to the bar.

or wait, did he? things were pretty chaotic. i remember stealing Buddy's hat and wearing it around and then Kinky and i got completely engrossed in a conversation about antics related to his name. this conversation was actually how Kinky got this nickname. and recently i found out from Egg that Kinky's got an Asian fetish. maybe that's why we were having that convo. hmmm...

we later travelled to Floyd's where i kept bugging Buddy, and in retrospect, i might've been cockblocking him. my bad... afterwards, Kinky and i went to Brantley's to potentially drink some more. then something weird happened.

Kinky and i were talking while walking into the elevator and then Brantley walked in w/this random guy. i could swear they were talking when i saw them. then he went w/us to Brantley's and we sat around drinking wine and Brantley was hiding out in the kitchen w/Kinky when the topic of pancakes came up but Brantley claimed to be too drunk to make them. then things were all of a sudden weird-like the atmosphere was weird. Kinky said he'd be leaving and the random guy went w/him.

now, the whole time i'd just assumed that Brantley knew this guy; that they'd met at Floyd's or just knew him from BLS since he lived in Feil. but nope. he was just some random guy. Kinky came back to Brantley's about 15 mins later which makes me realize how oblivious i am (that Kinky knew to draw this guy away but to come back). Brantley made us pancakes (yea!) and then i headed home where i passed right out b/c by that time i'd started to get that wine-related pounding headache.

as a post-script i was recently informed that that night was a just a fluke for random weird guy and he's actually very cool. who knew?

the 1st snowfall

it's snowing in NY! and i was actually awake to see it! of course it's because i've been sleeping at insane hours (basically vampire-like sleeping schedules) and now it's exams-time so i pretty much imagine being up virtually all the time now... regardless, it was nice to be up and see the 1st snowfall in the city (well ok, brooklyn, but let's not get technical).


it being my last wkd before disappearing into the dark, dank hell of reading period i decided to spend time w/some of my favorite ppl (tho i couldn't w/ALL my favorite ppl, after all i'm only 1 person). i had a mini-slumber party w/Bubby and Kiks at their apt in Astoria where we gorged out on fondue and tapenade, flourless chocolate cake and wine. i love doing that w/them b/c it reminds me of my Smithie days (it was an all girls school so every day was a slumber party). there were highs and lows to the night: we watched Spiderman 3 (low) and talked about going to Taipei for my spring break (very big high). i really really really hope that works out b/c i'm dying to go again. it's 1 of my favorite places in the world. anyone else interested in going? i'll totally go w/you...


next morning i got to see Bubby's dad who was visiting her from Albany. it's been a long long time since i've seen him but he's always fun and since he's a lawyer and successful too, definitely someone i aspire to be like so seeing him's like seeing a mentor-he helped me in deciding law schools, gave me a summer internship, wrote me a recommendation and was always there for advice. Kiks and i went to Costco which is always so addictive for me. i just can't help myself from buying stuff when i'm there. plus Kiks got to see 1st hand my "get out! shut up! no way!" shopping attitude which she also found hilarious. hmm...if only i could see myself doing it b/c everyone seems to find it so funny.

that night i also had a really fun pseudo-date w/1 of my favorite ppl. we went to Kenka and had a really late dinner. i always have a lot of fun w/him but this was 1 of our 1st times out together 1-on-1 (hence the term pseudo-date). i miss the days of being friends w/guys like i was w/O-Henry (once we became platonic-ish) and O. there's only 1 downside about dinner which was that our pseudo-date had to be a secret. it makes it really weird when i truly think about it. i mean, we're not doing anything. i mean, literally, nothing. we ate dinner and talked. is that really something that's got to be under wraps? ok, so yes we are a guy and a girl and yes, other ppl might not get it and those who don't might have their suspicions, but for me it's always been a "who cares" view about all that. people are always gonna talk regardless of what you do, but when you start keeping things secret, you make yourself look suspicious right? o well...maybe i'm just overthinking it and it's his choice plus since we're not anything romantic i'm not gonna make a fuss-but if we were that would be very bad

when i hear this i think of you...

since i'm holed up in my room, i've basically been listening to my iPod on shuffle continuously. 1 song i can't stop playing is Love Love Love by Epik High. haha, yep it's a korean song. and yep i know the lyrics (vaguely). pls don't ask me how...either way, even on shuffle there are certain songs i can't skip b/c of their sentimental value. i'm sure this list'll grow but in the past 2 hrs these are the ones that have been shuffled to me:

1. Escape (the Pina Colada song) by Rupert Holmes: always reminds me of going to Cancun, MX over spring break. while we were traversing around Casa Magna, eating and laying out and drinking drinks, every time i looked out at the beautiful beach and ocean view and basked in the summer (well really, spring) sun i just kept thinking of this song. and totally irrelevant, but the song also reminds me of that movie The Sweetest Thing. another irrelevant side note, Rupert Holmes ended up writing 1 of the few mystery novels that i actually enjoyed, Where the Truth Lies.

2. Island in the Sun by Weezer: ok i admit it, i went to see Out Cold that stupid snowboarding movie. Erma and i went and i remember we were pretty psyched over some stupid joke that the trailer kept playing on tv even tho what it was eludes me now. regardless, Island in the Sun is basically the theme song of the movie and i'd never heard it before and immediately fell in love w/it then proceeded to bug my housemates by playing it continuously for the next month. ahhh, college...

3. Because I'm a Girl by KISS: even tho i've been listening to all types of Asian songs (chinese, korean, japanese) i've never really bothered to watch MVs. 1 day while i was forcing Gohm to listen to Rain songs we started talking about korean dramas, which for a short period i was very addicted to (although i've gotten lazy b/c i can't be bothered to read the subtitles right now) and i was commenting that they're always so friggin' sad. someone's always dying, constant unrequited love, unfair misunderstandings. the 1 that takes the cake is Autumn Fairy Tale. god! how much tragedy can befall a single couple? and they're always crying in every single episode. sheesh! not that i didn't cry when i watched it...but even for me it got a little exasperating. it was then that Gohm advised me that not only were korean dramas this way, but so were korean MVs. and that's when he played me this MV on youtube. it was a whole korean drama plot in a single music video! heehee. now i have this song downloaded on my iPod and although i'm not the biggest fan of it, every time i hear it i remember the video and the melodrama of koreans...

why is God trying to kill me?

why is it that w/o fail whenever something important/that i want to do comes up i will inevitably get deathly ill aka the plague?

last year i got sick right before exams. it was a complete nightmare and at 1 pt i was literally crying b/c i was so ill it was to the pt i just wished i was dead. of course it didn't help that i was dating Gohm at the time and whenever i whined to him about being sick he refused to coddle me (plus he was always going out w/his friends while i was on my deathbed which is like taunting a starving man by eating a giant steak in front of him).

this year i got sick right before the inter-APALSA mixer that i'd coordinated. it was the 1st time that BLS APALSA had officially coordinated a NYC APALSA event w/all the NYC law schools: Columbia, NYU Law, St. Johns, Cardozo, Fordham Law, Hofstra and New York Law. the event was hosted at Town Tavern and me and Co-Chair hyped it up b/c we wanted BLS to represent itself. then i got the plague.

i was home w/a fever, body aches, and coughing up a lung. it was completely miserable. so of course i couldn't attend the event. i did hear that BLS APALSA came out in full force and everyone seemed to have a good time. i even heard Wifey come home around 1 am which means it must've been ok b/c considering Adidas and i didn't go if it'd sucked she would've bailed after an hour.

Spotted

spotted: Lance Bass lounge at a comfy table at One.

haha, ok, that was just the Gossip Girl in me coming out. actually Stitch and i spotted him while we were there waiting for Tina's bday party crew to show up and start. me and her were chilling near what-we-thought-would-be-our-table when Lance's crew walked by me. i had my glasses off (i always feel dorky wearing them in those trendy places. i admit its weird vanity considering what i wear walking around BLS) which meant i gave the impression that i was staring intently at everybody that i might think was cute since i actually couldn't see them clearly unless they were w/in 3 feet of me. when Lance walked by, i looked like the ultimate uncool fan/stalker. i involuntarily did a double-take then kept staring and squinting at him due to my lack of glasses, before finally putting them on and staring some more, then making Stitch look, then both of us looking together, then erupting into giggles after she texted her friend, Just Jared and referencing Gossip Girl (which we both shame-facedly admitted to watching).

prior to One Stitch and i met up for dinner at Nooch, Japanese/Thai restaurant. actually enjoyed the food although i had to stick to an udon soup b/c i was still recovering from the plague. Stitch was ambitious and ordered soft-shell crab as an entree which was just all crab. she didn't finish but it looked good.

the party ended up being shifted next door to Plunge at Hotel Gansevoort because One refused to let most of the party in claiming a lame 3:1 girl to guy ratio requirement. this on top of the fact that Chow, Minchul and Oppa were all purchasing bottles for a table. that's whack. so instead we headed over to Plunge which was easy for us to get into but poor Casper, who was meeting me there, had so much trouble. Plunge has got this crazy system in which in order to get more ppl in the waitress has to tell her manager if you've purchased more bottles to warrant more ppl and if so, the manager will tell the bouncer downstairs who will then allow you to enter to take the elevator to the penthouse. sigh... sometimes i can't believe how reedonkulous NYC lounges are.

i eventually left and, in my insanity, went over to Sing Sing on st. marks for BST's bday afterparty. Chipmunk later met me there (w/my BLS ID which had somehow fallen out of my purse-my hero...) and we all sang a bunch before finally heading home to brooklyn.

finally, a quiet weekend

a new event that APALSA did under our e-board was the Scav-evanger hunt (named thusly for Co-Chair). since this was a while ago, i can't remember what i did the night before, but i do remember being super hung-over the next morning, but i still dragged my ass out of bed and went to school to meet up w/the crew for a scavenger hunt around Brooklyn Heights, which encompassed DUMBO, Carrol Gardens and Boerum Hill. Co-Chair and i didn't partake of the actual hunt since Co-Chair wrote the clues and i was too un-functional to make the effort. instead we got the snacks and lemonade for the guys for when they finished the hunt.

the clues were pretty creative tho, and definitely opened up the area and introduced some new places. here's some of them:

1. Find the special of the day at Noodle Pudding-38 Henry Street
2. Take a picture of yourself on line at Grimaldi's-19 Old Fulton Street
3. Name the fruity street names in the neighborhood
4. Landmarks: Jane's Carousel-56 Water Street
Norman Mailer's place-142 Columbia Heights
Birthplace of AA-182 Clinton Street
62 Montague Street-where Arthur Miller (author of Death of a Salesman) lived w/Marilyn Monroe
5. Find the highest score on Pac-Man at Tea Lounge-254 Court Street
6. What's inside a "dark and stormy"?

after the scavenger hunt Egg, Brantley, Ol' S and Wifey met me for brunch at Lobo which completely hit the spot. it was all in celebration of Egg's bday which was that weekend. o yea! that's it! me and Oni had gone out the night before and made a stop at Sin Sin for Egg before heading over to the Park to meet her ex! wow...i'm impressed i remembered that. hmm, why was i so hungover the next day? o yea, it was those Petron shots...blech.

back to the Mexican brunch. Brantley got a delicious and huge burger instead of traditional brunch fare. it was so cute b/c she was so specific in getting the perfect cheeseburger w/fried egg. we were all like seagulls circling around her french fries which were just the way i like them (crispy crispy crispy). the meal i was most envious of was the Tulsa: jalapeno cheese grits w/2 eggs and tortillas, which Egg was smart enough to get. those grits were so delicious. i got the huevos rancheros which were good, but ended up not being so smart for my sensitive tummy and i wasn't the biggest fan of the sauce they used. Wifey and Ol' S got the Migas which was also really good from what i tasted.

Wifey, being the korean she is, had to go for both tabasco sauces: the red and the green chile kind. she quickly learned how spicy the green one can be. it was hilarious to see her, the korean spicy queen, admit defeat from a hot sauce. she was just about tearing at 1 point and had to gulp down rice and water.

Haeyaoke

being a new member of the APALSA e-board, we decided to do a group bonding activity by going to karaoke in ktown. it was conveniently named after Haeya so the event became nicknamed Haeyaoke (how ingenious). aside from the e-board we took the new 1L reps out too so we could maximize the whole bonding experience.

once again we went to Toto (take a lucky guess as to who recommended that). the event was pretty fun overall. i got to see Haeya turn into mean korean girl which was hilarious. Co-Chair sang the 1st song and when he finished his score popped up on the screen which surprised everyone in the room (except for me)and as most of us weren't korean we didn't know what it said so Co-Chair announced authoritatively that "it's definitely not a score" which just brought out the mean korean girl in Haeya where she read the korean on the screen in a very severe tone and ended it by calling Co-Chair "stupid" even more severely. and prior to this incident, we'd gone to Woorijip to pick up booze and the guy behind the register was giving her a hard time about how the drinks were getting paid for (we had a lot, but we were 12 ppl)and she just turned into severe korean girl in front of our eyes. it was awesome.

i also got to see Prez sing what has now turned into his trademark song (Burn by Usher). everyone's jaw just about fell to the ground when he started singing b/c he sings well, but i wasn't surprised since he'd already told me he sang in choir and was in a band in college. Co-Chair and i danced to A Whole New World (i believe) in front of everyone which would usually mortify me but it was late enough in the night where other MORE embarassing stuff had happened w/other ppl so i wasn't worried.


Wifey was completely out of hand tho. she had brought her own bottle of vodka and was plugging away at it slowly and just got completely belligerent. she slowly but surely receded into the corners of the sofa and was pretty quiet for the night until she drunkenly professed her love for me and lamented our current roommate situation. when we finally checked out, Wifey was in her grumpy belligerent drunk phase and was clamoring for food so most of the e-board went back to brooklyn while Adidas (who was also wasted), Prez, Wifey and i went over to Kunjip. i was pretty thankful for Prez's presence or else i would've had my hands full w/very drunk Adidas and Wifey-1 was professing his love/infatuation for an e-board member and the the other was randomly snapping out of quiet drunken stupors to tell us how ridiculous we were.


at 1 pt during dinner Wifey ended up burning her wrist on the hot pot that contains the steamed egg banchan (so yummy). we were all aware when this happened. but about 30 mins later, i looked up from my food and watched as Wifey accused Prez of having burned her and thrusting her wrist in his face. the next morning she gchatted me about how she couldn't remember anything but had found the front of her sweater completely dirty from the food (i'm not sure WHEN that happened) and how she'd somehow randomly burned herself and how much it hurt.

blatant honesty

now don't get me wrong, i appreciate blatant honesty from my friends (of course, if phrased w/tact i appreciate it more).

so Moon told me yesterday that in light of the post-break up developments that have occurred I'm obviously Gohm's rebound girl and i may be reaping some kind of karma directed at me from Ahjima.


ouch.


but, ok, i appreciate your honesty.


o and btw, you're a butthole.


but still appreciate your honesty.

the death of a Legend

in my plague-recuperation days i took the opportunity to have a nice quiet dinner w/Egg and Brantley after a night out of heavy drinking. we ended up going to Chip Shop, which i'm ashamed to say i had never been to until that night. o the things i've missed...

while the food's a definite throwback to the cuisine of the UK, the inside's much nicer than any chip shop i was ever in while studying abroad. the price is fair altho i'm pretty sure anyone from the UK would never think about paying that much for food from a typical English chip shop. but like i said, this place is a little different.

i was too hungover to drink beer so i just chugged cokes (my favorite post-drinking drink). Egg ended up getting mac and cheese (served w/a side of peas), i opted for the chicken curry (which they serve OVER the french fries). the curry was more of that tomato-ey sweet kind but it wasn't bad and putting it ON TOP of the fries was innovative and unexpected, although it made me wish i had gotten mashed potatoes instead (ghetto curry shepherd's pie anyone?). i was tempted to order dessert but i hadn't finished my meal and like any good little kid i couldn't justify it (plus i was feeling like a fatty).

stuffed from our meal, we all headed back to Brantley's to watch a movie and wait w/her until her parents and brother arrived. after rock, paper, scissor-ing it out we opted to watch Legend, which we all gushed about how we had such fond memories of it as kids. what kid wouldn't love a movie about unicorns and elves and magic? and for little girls, there's also the love story between the princess and the handsome boy.

hmmm....our memories must be more shoddy than we realized or else we all had warped perceptions of what was good back then. sigh just goes to show some things shouldn't be revisited.

we had enough time so we also watched Hard Candy, which i had heard about and Egg was dying to see. pretty interesting and nice twist at the end (love those). the movie definitely had me guessing the whole time exactly how it would end. where do you go w/a single situation of a girl tricking a pedophile to take her to his place and she keeps him tied up pretty much the whole movie? however, the direction of the plot definitely twisted and turned to keep you guessing. i wonder if many pedophiles went to see this movie w/a "what if" mindset.

real friends

for a while, right before i got the plague, i was taking some time off from the lifestyle of "living in the city" and being in your 20s. i was just getting too broke, too tired, too stressed out (from school and drama) and just all around burnt out. so i hibernated for a while and took some time off from anything too festive, just doing work, relaxing and (if i could be bothered) going out around brooklyn.

this always happens to me every once in a while. life's so circular sometimes. after a long run of constant outings w/large groups of ppl, everything tends to get a little monotonous. drinking. tables. late night food (recently it's always been ktown). cabs home. and it's always the same ppl. and i can almost guarantee that 1 of the ppl calling me on friday or saturday night is someone i haven't talked to all week (or the last 2 wks) aside from a random IM or gchat during the week that essentially asks how the other's doing. aside from going out together to someone's birthday party (how is it ALWAYS someone's birthday on the weekends? and do i really know that many ppl? i don't think so) these aren't always ppl i have a quiet dinner or drink w/, go watch a movie w/, invite over just to chat, meet for coffee. don't get me wrong, sometimes they are. even when i go out more often than not there's at least 1 person there who's been through it w/me and done all those things i just listed. when i take these sabbaticals from socializing it tends to be b/c i'm starting to go out just to go out. and then i tend to be w/ppl who are really just looking to add more body counts to whatever event they're going to just to be that person who knows at least 30 ppl in the party.

excuse me, i just dry-heaved at the thought of those ppl.

but never fear, i did eventually de-funk and went to Spoon's birthday party at Naked Lunch. every time i go here it's mad crowded but the DJ is so cute. Spoon and i have really known each other since high school but we attended middle school together too (different cliques, you know how the suburbs are). regardless, we've stayed friends and she definitely fits into my keeper category. she can definitely be a handful sometimes (when she makes her mind up to go buck, all hell breaks lose and i've definitely had my indiscretions on outings w/her) but she's also there for the quiet stuff too, it also helps i haven't had to be too vigilant about watching her when we go out together cause she can take care of herself. Kiks (another keeper from college) and i met at the bar-as always i was running late and got lost. all named streets are my kryptonite when it comes to sense of direction-and stayed for a few drinks before i met the Twins at Park which i appreciate for the ease of getting in (being female and all) and the calmness of the downstairs juxtaposed w/the dance floor upstairs. Oni and Yuka met me there w/some boys they'd picked up and we all danced and lost each other multiple times over the night.

and of course we ended up in ktown eating. and the cycle starts again?

damn those ILS drink specials

ILS recently had an event at Maz Mezcal in Brooklyn w/an amazing drink special of $3 margaritas and beers. it was just too good of a special to pass up so of course i had to go. Brantley had already gone ahead of me (if i have trouble resisting drink specials i love that she has it prob 3X more) so it was good that i had someone to meet.


i was double fisting at Maz Mezcal; only b/c they were so slow about getting the drinks and i was dealing w/a time constraint. i def learned a few new gossip items abouut my fellow BLSers from attending a school function. afterwards everybody headed to Brazen Head for the after party. i swear, only a few drinks in and i was wasted. DRC was busy macking it 1st to Kinky and then to Berg Jr. Jr. which i loved. luckily for me, Brantley was craving some food and we headed towards Carroll Gardens Diner. others got pancakes and eggs whereas the jersey girl in me screamed for disco fries (fries w/mozzarella and gravy).


i'm pretty sure the disco fries saved me from a night a yuking. god bless nj for teaching girls how to avoid the super hangover and hug-the-toilet vomiting.

i have a brand new cousin!

as the title suggests, my uncle and aunt (in that very ironic asian super-connected way) just had their 1st baby! congratulations! i have another convoluted connected cousin who i already adore just based on the picture.

Mentor-Mentee '07

a long overdue post but i had to wait for pics to be available and thanks to Prez i can now put something up w/this post.

the 1st APALSA event that Co-chair and i had to plan together was the Mentor-Mentee dinner which is also 1 of the 1st big events of the year for APALSA so there was a lot riding on it. while it was definitely a stresser to find someone to provide food, order dessert, coordinate the set-up and clean-up crew, and then picking all these things up, overall i had a good time.

Co-chair and i decided to go w/variety for the food (from Sea Asian) and Asian desserts in the form of cakes from Tai Peng in Chinatown (green tea and Asian tiramisu-gotta love the Asian desserts: never too sweet but always light and delicious). the biggest pain was obtaining the wine. i went to Trader Joe's to pick up 2 cases of wine (1 red and 1 white) and luckily for me Egg was available to help me carry the cases home but even then they were reedonkulously heavy. after Egg and i got off the subway we stopped at BLS to pick up his stuff from the SBA office and i took the chance to call Adidas to come and meet us so he could carry my case of wine b/c at that point my arms were about to fall off.

even tho we ran out of food (can we pls RSVP ppl?) and wine (BLS APALSA really represents when it comes to the booze) i think overall the event was a success w/a really high turn-out and afterwards we all went to Trout for the after-party. Ultimately Prez and i ended up at our favorite Carrol Gardens Diner w/GJ and Chaeso where old APALSA e-board was also eating.

2 ppl ended up crying that night. i'm just glad i wasn't 1 of them.

get out! shut up! no way!

Egg and i have both been pretty busy lately so we decided to take some quality time while being functional as well. he and i both had errands to do at Duane Reade and on Sunday he and i were walking over together when we passed a street fair going on on Court Street and since i hadn't eaten lunch we took our time while i looked for yummy street food.

i eventually opted for jalapeno-butter grilled corn which i munched on while we perused the wares which were all pretty ghetto (nothing that's not available every day on the sidewalks of Court Street). we ran into Co-Chair who name-dropped bowling leagues in Williamsburg and small clubs on Avenue B before we moved on to Duane Reade where we probably spent more than an hour at. the trip started w/buying a shower curtain for Egg and then we just got all caught up in the housewares area and i proceeded to get some stuff needed for the apt too and then we were walking up and down every aisle and Egg was maniacally pulling things off the shelf (a garlic mincer?).

what probably took the most time was when we perused the condom aisle. i've got to admit, i haven't really looked at what's available in a while but now that i have props should be given to the variety that's out there now. and almost everything's geared towards pleasuring the girl. warming lube, crazily ribbed for her pleasure, tingling lube, de-sensitizing for the male lube, and get this...cock rings! Egg and i were pretty impressed by that. what happened to the day when cock rings were novelty items you bought at the local St. Marks sex shop? there was even 1 condom brand that had a carrying case for your cock ring/cleaning wipes. crazy. we kept goofing off and examining each case and analyzing the weirdest things (like how big does Magnum mean? and is that girth/length?). i don't think i've had that much fun at a Duane Reade ever.

Egg kept laughing at me b/c i tend to react w/outrageous cries of "get out!" or "no way!" or "shut up!" whenever i see something interesting.

tingling lube condoms? get out!

to prolong the fun Egg and i dropped off our stuff and then decided to go grocery shopping together at Trader Joe's in Union Square. it was Egg's 1st time shopping there and he was pretty overwhelmed and spent a crazy amt but well worth it since some of the stuff he bought will last longer and can be stored in the freezer. we'd meant to also make a stop at the Trader Joe's liquor store but by the time we finished grocery shopping the store was closed.

frozen edamame peas? shut up!

Egg was so excited w/all his new groceries that he made me a dinner of rosemary chicken stuffed w/sun-dried tomatoes and goat cheese and roasted potatoes and a dessert of strawberry mochi.

La Boheme

w/o Debs in my life, i prob wouldn't have anything cultural/sophisticated to talk about, let alone anything truly exciting in the "real-world" sense of things. but luckily for you and i, she is in my life and so i have this entry.

Debs had bought tickets to La Boheme performed by the NYC Opera at Lincoln Center for her lil' sis who ironically wanted to see Rent instead of it (Rent is based on La Boheme, something i didn't know until Debs told me at the opera house) so Debs asked me to go instead. i was really psyched to go but worried too since i don't do too well at truly cultural events (i always fall asleep at ballets and orchestras/symphonies when they're held indoors). i didn't have to worry b/c La Boheme was performed beautifully and i really enjoyed it, at 1st straining to read the supertitles and then not caring about them near the end. gotta love that Puccini.


since it was Friday night, i'd already gotten a bunch of calls about events going on and was sort of relieved about attending the opera w/Debs since it took off some of the pressure of trying to figure out where to go and what to do. afterwards, we went to grab some dinner at Heartland Brewery in Union Square (pumpkin ale's now available. it tasted like a beer-y version of pumpkin pie so i was in heaven) before heading over to Slate for GJ's boyfriend's bday party where Prez was. i was excited for Prez and Debs to meet b/c i think they're both adorable ppl and they're both my pseudo-dates sometimes, plus they're amongst my friends w/the least drama which i love the most.


Debs only stayed for a little at Slate (she gets uncomfortable in super-Asian crowds having grown up all twinkie) and that's when random chaos started. Chipmunk, Snoopy and GMoon called (all separately) a bunch of times trying to get into Slate but the doorman was being a douche and wasn't letting anyone else in (it was only 1 am-ish at the time). turns out GMoon and Chipmunk were w/Institution and they'd tried to get in w/about 12 other dudes and no girls(way too much sausage to get in anywhere really). they all travelled over to meatpacking but Chipmunk came back around by himself and i got him in under the "he's-my-boyfriend-and-i-need-him-to-walk-me-back-home-so-pls-let-him-in" pretense. eventually the group went to ktown and Prez and i opted to get food at Kunjip where i ran into Snoopy (who seemed pretty pissed that i hadn't called him back). he went on to norebang while Prez and i and the rest of the group stayed.


turns out Institution and GMoon were eating at the Japanese place above Kunjip (i know ktown's small but sometimes it's a little too small) and we all finished around the same time and headed back to Feil (after a lot of loitering in ktown w/all the guys trying to figure out where to go next and where to meet girls-since i was the only girl at this pt). some of us ended up at Institution's apt drinking Modelos and talking about ridiculous stuff until 7 am. what a weird weird night. it started out so nice and classy w/Debs and ended so frat-ish w/Institution and the guys.

San Gennaro Feast

yes, the San Gennaro Feast was a lifetime ago, but hey, whatevs, i'm always catching up on this blog. regardless, i couldn't pass up the opportunity to eat lots of yummy fried dough and sausages.

Egg and i went w/some others to Drea's bar event but it was really just a reason to go over to the San Gennaro Feast. it was pretty funny actually. all of us were clamoring for sausage. no matter what we said, it sounded perverted b/c it was all in the strain of how much we wanted the sausage. but nobody cared b/c it was deliciously worth it.

Egg also ordered some raw clams, which the guy shucked in front of us. they were surprisingly delicious and savory. and we managed to score a free 1 due to my love of sausage. i had just shared a fried oreo (which is another secret guilty pleasure. DAMN that is so so so good) and was clamoring about finding the sausage which made the guy shucking Egg's clams secretly smile so he hooked us up w/another free 1 just so i could try it. YEA!

flowers in the attic

Brantley recently hosted a game night and, like the dork that i am, i was giddy w/anticipation for it. Friday night rolled around and when i showed up at Brantley's the set-up was very impressive. she had delicious food laid out (thank god for Trader Joe's) along w/25+ bottles of wine (again, compliments of Trader Joe's). props have to be given to Brantley for her impressive hosting skills.

we started out playing Catchphrase, something i've never done before but am now completely in love w/. so simple, yet so complex. genius. there's only 1 prop and the premise of the game is taboo+hot potato. it took me a little to get it at 1st but i caught on much quicker in part due to DetroitRockCity's ultra-competitiveness. everyone knows how serious i take games. or maybe you don't, but that's b/c i hide it well. my super competitiveness stays hidden until i start losing. luckily for my friends, i'm usually on the winning side.

things really started to get dramatic when we played Pop 5. a product of the Cranium crew, Pop 5 takes a spin off the whole Cranium concept, in which you allot points for each clue category based on what the topic/card is. simple enough. the 1st time we played the teams were pretty much evenly split at random. ultimately we discovered: i rock at this game. aside from the time when i have to be a clue-giver, i'm an awesome guesser. i mean, guessing Metallica from a drawing of a scale and knowing the category's music? that's just genius. what really brought me to superstar status tho was the last question. Mike decided to sculpt the topic which we only knew was in the category "book." he started to sculpt what looked like a mushroom to me (Alice in Wonderland?) but which DRC guessed "flower." DRC guessed Flowers for Algernon and when this was wrong i immediately yelled Flowers in the Attic (and yes, the game had escalated to the point where we were always screaming our answers). the look on the opposing team's face was priceless. their jaws just sort of dropped and they were all stunned. turns out i'm the only person who knows about this book which surprises me b/c i remember it being a big deal when i was a kid due to the 80's movie. plus, who doesn't know about the book dealing w/brother-sister incest?

i felt even more vindicated when i saw a recent episode of Ugly Betty in which they made reference to the book in relation to the possibility of Amanda and Daniel being half brother-sister and having slept together.

after this round i became the golden ticket that everyone wanted on their team. Josh, bless his heart, kept adamantly demanding we be on the same team. ultimately it came down to boys vs. girls aka the gays vs. the breeders. the gays also got Egg by default (he did dance ballet in high school). they still lost. afterwards we headed towards Brazen Head for more drinks before i stumbled home around 3 am only to have to wake up to make PB &J sandwiches at 10:30 am for the APALSA kickball game at Prospect Park.

Co-chair came over w/a ginormous pumpkin spice latter (yea it's back! and bless his heart) and we made brown bag lunches for the event. it was an adorable concept and prob 1 of the most kick-ass brown bag lunches ever made: Oreo cookies (mint, double-stuffed and chocolate creme), fresh fruit( orange wedges and grapes), juicebox (apple juice/gatorade) and PB & J sandwiches (cut into 1/4s-it was so cute). we were literally making these lunches until the last minute but they went over well at the event, which also had a decent turn-out.

and mock my athletic ability all you want, but my team won. so nah-ni-nah-ni-nah-nah. of course i did have Chase Honeycup on my team. and i really pitched my ass off. don't believe me? i pitched so well i got Co-Chair to foul out.

I Need to Work on my Lower Body

ok, let's see if i can do quick catch-up entries now that i'm trying to be more functional. Oppa, who i totally miss, had a going away-ish event at Branch a while ago prior to his trip to Korea (which is where he is now). but before i could meet up w/Oppa i had made plans w/FDR to meet up 1st.


i haven't seen FDR since the singles mixer, and in all actuality i haven't hung out w/him since ASW's wedding in Vegas. it was actually really good to see him again and he's just as entertaining and easy to get along w/as ever. i introduced him to Oni (i am such a good friend. how many boys has this girl met through me at this point? ahem) but w/Oni's ex hovering in the wings i think that's a pretty dead end and FDR's 1 of the few ppl who shuns Facebook so there's really no way for them to stay connected. Casper met us at Gaslight in Little West 12th, which was surprisingly packed (w/o making you wait in line, an anomaly for that area) but played some pretty good music which is always refreshing. we stayed for a little and then headed over to Park to meet up w/Egg who i had ran into on my way out of the apartment and had told me he would be there.


we got into Park easily (we were the perfect guy-girl ratio: 2 to 2) and even managed to locate Egg, only to find out he was ready to leave. in fairness it was around 1 or 2 am. the truly surreal part was who Egg was there w/: Chace Honeycup (or should it be cut? and yes, this is a pseudonym bestowed on somebody just last night) and AsianFetish, along w/some other BLS kids. call me a little prejudicial but Park is not where i imagine that group going (sans Egg).


we finally got to Branch to meet Oppa where Boys Club was there w/their ringleader who was completely wasted. they all ended up bouncing but Oppa being the good oppa that he is, stayed w/us until the end. Branch plays pretty good music and we all danced a lot, and since this was shortly after my Cali trip, i totally had to try Margaret's stripper dance move, but alas, i couldn't pull it off w/o something to hold onto. and my legs were totally sore the next day. props to Margaret for being able to do that move w/o holding on to anything. she must have thighs capable of breaking a thighmaster.

i'm hungry...can you make me food?

Oni always takes care of me by feeding me whenever i'm hungry. on a particular night, i ran into Prez outside of Feil and, letting me know he's hungry, we called Oni who was on her way back from class. as soon as i said i was hungry she was more than happy to provide some dinner for me.

i feel so loved.

when Prez and i showed up at her apartment tho, she told Prez she was sorry but she didn't have enough food. this was pretty surprising since she was making mi-yuk gook (seaweed soup). when it came time to serve the food tho, the truth came out. it wasn't that she didn't have enough food, it was that she didn't want Prez to try her food since she wasn't prepared to feed him. meaning, it's fine to feed me whatever, but for Prez it had better be a tried and true recipe of deliciousness. i don't know how i feel about that, but either way i appreciate being fed when i'm hungry and the food's always good.

ultimately, she did feed both Prez and i and it was yummy.

the dilemma of an ex

i swear, i've had 1 supernatural ability in all my life. i'm not super smart/super strong/super fast but in all my relationships, i've been able to maintain friendships. i've never ever badly broken up w/an ex. i think that merits some kind of acknowledgement as a super power.

but Gohm might be the exception. i've forged through a lot of stereotypical thinking, but Gohm's is 1 that i can't seem to breakthrough. from the whole, "i've got to marry a korean" to now where "exes are not friends," i'm starting to think that he's affecting me more than vice versa. this is not a philosophy i subscribe to. relationships are sacred to me. that's why i don't have that many. and regardless of how things end (tho i've never had someone cheat on me) i truly believe that if they were significant enough for you to date, they're significant enough to be friends w/. they're a part of shaping me into who i am. no matter what, they'll always be important. my next relationship will reflect what i've learned from my last. but Gohm...

i understand that it's always easier to write exes off than to keep them in your life. they're a constant reminder of the lost; of what could've been and what to stay away from. and it's a lot easier to be angrier. but really? can you just discard a whole year or more of your life? that easily? of course, it's easier to discard someone once you've found somebody else. no doubt about that. and let's just accept that that's the natural evolution of life. if you're not destined to be w/that person, it's not like they're gonna be alone forever. somebody is destined for them. and when that fate comes along, you've probably lost them forever b/c as an ex, you're on the banned list of contacts.

but what if you're cool enough? what if you want to keep that person in your life? how? how do you do that? how do you keep an ex? not as a back-up or a what-if but as a person who has substantially contributed to your life and shaped you into who you are?

Bubby turns 25

as a non-related intro to the entry, i just wanted to discuss how much i'm loving fall tv right now. yes, yes, i'm a law student. how could i possibly have time to watch tv? well, this fact aside, i do watch a lot of it. after all, that's what i was born and raised on, being a latch-key kid and having super-Asian strict parents. i watched the premiere of Shot at Love last night w/Tila Tequila and i'm already hooked. 1st off, the girl's pretty damn hot right? and i'm dying to know is she gonna pick a girl or a guy? the girls are way more interesting right now tho i'm curious whether the butch-dyke ones will stay now they know Tila's bi. this show's just great for the Jerry Springer aspect of it and the previews show lots of fights and someone going to the hospital so i'm all about it right now.

ok, now on to the content. Bubby turned 25 (at last!). she's the young'n of our Smithie crew. we met up for drinks at Ginger Man Pub in midtown and i got to meet some of her work friends and Kiks and Shannon came too. the place is pretty much an after-work midtown bar w/lots of work-midtown types there. the impressive thing is the sheer amount of beers they offer. it's probably got around 200 options. being a fall, pumpkin kind of girl i stuck w/the pumpkin ale which was yummy but it's no match to the 1 offered at Heartland Brewery. glad to have got the chance to see Bubby and Kiks who i haven't seen in a while and also spend some time w/some non-Asians in a more pub-y setting as opposed to lounges and trendy bars i've been frequenting lately.

I frown more often now

i've recently realized that my face in its natural state is often a frown. i'll be doing nothing, not particularly sad/mad, and i'll realize the corners of my mouth are turned down. when did this start to happen? i wonder if something in my life is making me subconsciously sad...

at least 1 thing won't be causing me to frown/stress anymore (and this took place a while ago but i'm a slow updater)as the Chipmunk-Oni drama finally ended. i think the straw that broke the camel's back was the night we went out to Ultra. Oni had met an MK promoter the weekend before and there was an open bar event at Ultra being sponsored by MK so we got in for free and enjoyed 1 hr of open bar (serving only vodka and tequila-blech). there was a hilarious incident w/getting Yuka in (being that she's only 20-and yes, apparently i'm hanging out w/all young'ns now) but everything went down w/o a hitch. Chipmunk and Oni had their own awkward drama going on but they both managed to enjoy themselves. the Ultra venue is pretty nice & not too big. there's a "VIP" area which is raised above the rest a little which is referred to as a treehouse (the name alludes to something much more grand than what it actually is-i wasn't that impressed).

i was maximizing the amount of open bar for that 1 hr which resulted in me feeling a little sick, especially in a crowded venue like that. about 2 hrs in i was ready to go home. Yuka had another event to go to and so we hopped a cab over to Little West 12th and seeing the VIP-ish line at the new place, i immediately opted to just go home. Oni came w/me and she made me bibim neng myun which was so much better than anything else that could've happened that night.

o and did i mention that we left the Twins at Ultra? yea, that was the straw that broke Chipmunk's back i guess. although recently Chipmunk's been making some Facebook endeavors to Oni again...